At CHOICES we pride ourselves on making single and same-sex families welcome. We believe in fair, competent and available services to our LGBT families.

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You are required to be 21 years of age, financially stable and mature to raise a child.

Singles and same sex couples are legally able to adopt children from Canada if you are interested in low-risk infant adoption, foster children and teens. Infant adoption is also possible from the USA through Family Resource Center and A Bond For Life. Please call Kirsten at 1 888 479 9811 for more information on our USA program.

At the present time, we do not work with any international countries that facilitate same sex adoption other than the USA.

The first step is to fill out an application form and register with CHOICES Adoption.

Our office administrators are happy to answer any questions you may have about how to get started. Call the office anytime at 1 888 479 9811.

In Canada, if you want to adopt, you are required to do a homestudy. This report is about you, or you and your partner. It is a look at how you grew up, who you are and why you would like to adopt a child. It generally takes from three to four months for a homestudy to be completed by a social worker.

You will need to sign up for an Adoption Education Seminar provided by CHOICES. There are various dates available throughout the year. Your adoption will not proceed after the homestudy if you have not completed the education component.

You are required to complete a Ministry Prior Contact check to confirm that any involvement with the Ministry for Children and Family Development in the past will not affect your ability to parent.

You are also required to do a Medical with your family doctor, and a Criminal Record Check with your local police department.

You will choose four References that we will mail reference letters to. We usually recommend two family members and two friends.

At CHOICES, you will need to sign up to put your profile on the Domestic Registry. Your profile is made up of your homestudy, a letter you have written to the expectant mother or parents, and photos of you and your family. When we work with expectant mother or parents who have decided on an adoption plan for their child, they make a list of what they are looking for in an adoptive family. Based on their requirements we show them profiles from our Registry. CHOICES will guide you through the process.

You can also decide to adopt from the United States after you have completed your home study. The children available in the US come from an ethnic mix of North American Society and many African American children. As an adoptive parent you will need to choose and apply to an adoption agency in the USA to help facilitate your adoption. We currently work with Adoption by Shepherd Care, Adoption ARC, Advocates for Children and Family, Voice for International Development and Adoption (VIDA), and Premier Adoption. If you know of an agency that is Hague accredited and supports same sex adoption we are open to exploring that with you. Once you have chosen to work with an American agency you will need to complete and apply to sponsor your child with immigration. Retain the letter you receive from the case processing center that confirms your application to immigration. You will need this document to cross the border with your child. Your US adoption facilitator will assist you with obtaining your child’s passport and your adoption order. As an adoptive parent you will need the child’s original birth certificate. CHOICES will request a letter from the ministry called a Letter of No Objection which you will need in order to cross the border back into Canada. You will also be required to complete three Post Placement Reports required at 1, 3 and 5 month intervals.

Most of our placements are newborns. It is in the best interest of the child to be open about your adoption. CHOICES encourages openness with birth family and extended family. This could take the form of an exchange of letters and photos, and may also include phone calls and visits. This is not a legally binding agreement, but a moral agreement between you and the birth family.

There are Waiting Parent’s groups across the province for prospective adoptive parents to get together and discuss adoption issues and questions. There are lots of adoption resources to connect to before and after your child is placed with you. If you are adopting transracially, you should make connections in your community that will help your child develop. Contact the Adoptive Family Association for resources near you at 1-604-320-7330.

There is no timeline for domestic adoption as the decision of who they place their child with is left entirely up to the expectant mother or parents.

If you are interested in adopting one of BC’s waiting children please call the office at 1-888-479-9811 or call the BC Waiting Children line at 1-877-ADOPT -07.

If you are interested in teen adoption please visit our teen site.


What if we are not comfortable with our social worker?

We want you to have a good adoption experience. Please call the office if your social worker is not the right fit for you and your family.

 

Are same sex couples able to adopt internationally?

At the moment, we do not have any countries open to same-sex adoption except the USA, but we are always looking for new countries to work with.

 

Can we adopt from the USA?

The USA became a Hague country in 2008. CHOICES work with the following adoption agencies to facilitates adoptions from the USA: Adoption by Shepherd Care, Adoption ARC, Advocates for Children and Family, Voice for International Development and Adoption (VIDA), and Premier Adoption.

 

How many same-sex couples have adopted from your agency?

We have a growing community of same-sex couples that have adopted from us. Please call the office if you would like to connect with one of our families at 1-888-479-9811.

Did you know…? About 65,500 adopted children are being raised by gay or lesbian parents in the USA.


 

At CHOICES we pride ourselves on making single and same-sex families welcome. We believe in fair, competent and available services to our LGBT families.

Video Resources

  • In My Shoes: Stories of Youth with LGBT Parents (2005) [Gr4-12/ staff/ PAC, youth tell their stories] 31 min.

Book List

  • The Different Dragon. Bryan, Jennifer (2006)
    Boy with two moms teaches dragon it’s OK to be different
  • Felicia’s Favourite Story. Newman, Leslea (2002)
    Intercultural adoption story of a girl with two moms
  • King and King. de Haan, Linda (2002)
    Princes fall in love and have a royal wedding
  • King and King and Family. de Haan, Linda (2004)
    The new kings adopt an orphan girl
  • Molly’s Family. Garden, Nancy (2004)
    Kindergarten girl is anxious at bringing two moms to school
  • Mom and Mum are Getting Married. Setterington, Ken (2004)
    Lesbian wedding with kids involved
  • One Dad, Two Dads, Brown Dad, Blue Dads. Valentine, Johnny (1994)
    Rhyming story of boy with two blue dads
  • We Belong Together. Parr, Todd (2007)
    Colourful and diverse adoption tale encourages reader to alter pronouns to suit own family
  • Holly’s Secret. Garden, Nancy (2000)
    Novel – Examines friendship and integrity, lesbian moms Gr 4-7
  • Lucy’s Family Tree. Halvorsen-Schreck, Karen (2001)
    Picture book – School family tree assignment Gr 4-7
  • Love Makes a Family: Portraits of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Parents and Their Families. Peggy Gillespie (1999)
    LGBT families are showcased through photos and text
  • The Kid – Dan Savage
  • Toddler Adoption – Mary Hopkins-Best
  • 20 Things that Adopted Kids wish their Adoptive Parents Knew – Sherrie Eldrigde
  • Gay Dads – Eric Strah
  • Gay Fathers – Barret and Robinson
  • Fatherhood for Gay Men – by Kevin McGarry
  • Gay Men Choosing Parenthood – Gerald P. Mallion
  • The Gay and Lesbian Parenting Handbook – April Martin, Ph.D.
  • Issues in Gay and Lesbian Adoption – Child Welfare League of America
  • Parents at Last – Cynthia V. N. Peck and Wendy Wilkinson
  • Adoption without Fear – James L. Gritter
  • And Tango makes three – Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell
  • A Love Like No Other – Stories from Adoptive Parents
  • How My Family Came to Be: Daddy, Papa and Me by Andrew R. Aldrich and Mike Motz

Study finds many Lesbians seeking to adopt struggle with being out

A qualitative study involving interviews with 70 women (35 lesbian couples) seeking to adopt found that many struggled with conflicts concerning openness about their sexuality and believing they had to stay in the closet in order to adopt. “Choices, Challenges, and Tensions: Perspectives of Lesbian Prospective Adoptive Parents,” by Abbie Goldberg, Jordan Downing and Christine Sauck, was published in the most recent issue of Adoption Quarterly (Volume 10, Issue 2). Only 9 of the 70 women stated that they had not considered “integrity” issues in relation to secrecy or openness in their adoption process.

To access a free abstract, go to: https://www.haworthpress.com/

Success in Adoption

“Success in adoption is not related to family form (be they single parent, two parent, transracial/cultural or other family structures); rather, success in adoption depends on the balance of resources and stressors assisting or impacting any family” (Human Rights Campaign Foundation in All Children All Families).

The Adoptive Family Association of BC

www.bcadoption.com
Please call the Adoptive Family Association for support groups in your area.
1 604 320 7330

Please contact us if you would like to speak with one of our same sex couple families about adoption.